There we were a group of us sitting on the beach during a tour in El Nido. It was one of the most beautiful beaches I have ever seen in my life & we were having a grand time sitting under a tree drinking some rHum (yes rHum with an H) and chatting away. We had already been drinking for a few hours so we all had a good buzz going. A few of us had been traveling together for a while because most of us met in Boracay or well before that in India. We all became great friends fast and normally our conversations were about sex, travel and stupid shit we’ve done in our lives, occasionally politics and other hot topics.
—Some of the best friends I’ve made on the road. Us on that very day before the argument started. —
On this occasion we were having a conversation about gay rights and how it’s time that we have equal rights around the world and should be allowed to marry and so on. The conversation was going great everyone was voicing his or her opinion when out of nowhere a guy next to us said something that made us all angry and me cry. We met him in Boracay, but had been trying to avoid him since then. The reason we had been trying to avoid him & his friend (both American who served in the US Army) was because from the moment we met them we all got a bad vibe from them and from the moment I met them knew they were homophobic. I could just feel it and we rarely hung out and after leaving Boracay all thought we would never see them again, but anyone who has backpacked around the world knows the backpacker trail is almost unavoidable and well we bumped into them again in El Nido and happened to be doing the same tour (thankfully they were not on our boat) and well anywho yes they were sitting next to us on the beach.
So out of nowhere interrupting our conversation about gay rights (knowing I am gay) this guy says:
“Well, if you think about it from a biological perspective, the purpose of life is to procreate. God made one man and one woman.”
“Think about it logically, biologically, mathematically there is one man and one woman…”
We all got quite and none of us could believe what we were hearing… everyone got very defensive and kept looking at me. I was in shock, I know people like this exist and know everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but when you travel you RARELY meet people like this. So everyone kept arguing and he kept saying he wanted to have an “intelligent conversation”. I on the other hand had toned everything out and the only thing that kept replaying in my head was
“THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS TO PROCREATE.”
with that one sentence this guy just abolished my existence on Earth, my purpose of life. It kept replaying and replaying… I couldn’t believe it and then tears started coming… I didn’t want to cry in front of this guy so I got up and before walking away said,
“Look I know how you feel about gay rights now & I respect it, but next time you get a chance to vote for something that is going to affect me & the gay community put my face on it and realize you will are hurting other human beings that just want to be happy.”
I walked away and went into the ocean for a swim. I swam behind the boat and cried. I just cried and cried because those 7 words hurt me more than anything else I think I have ever heard in my life. I know I will never be able to procreate (naturally) and everyone that knows me knows that I want 4 children at some point in my life.
I wiped my tears off washed my face in the water and walked back asked for more rHum and just sat there quietly. The mood had changed completely. It was time to leave and once we were back on the boat everyone apologized for them and told me they loved me for whom I was and that it was going to be okay. I let them know it was okay and that I know people like this still exist and is why we (GLBT humans) still have a long way to go for equal rights in the United States of America (land of the “free”).
We left it at that, but for the next few days and even now those 7 fucking words replay in my mind and fuck with me. It makes me think,
“WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE?”
—Written on one of the beaches of El Nido.—
The truth is no one knows what the purpose of life really is, we can only assume and try and make the most of the one life we have on this beautiful planet we call Earth. I’ve thought about it a lot and even before this have always thought the purpose of life is “HAPPINESS” (it’s even in my ABOUT ME page). Yes I think you can sum up the purpose of life with that one word.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines happiness as: “a state of well-being and contentment”.
Isn’t that what we all want in life?
I don’t think the purpose of life is to procreate, travel the world, own a car, own a home, have a job, go to school, worship a God, buy things, find love or any of the million things you can do while you are on Earth. All those things though do lead to “HAPPINESS”. I travel the world because it makes me “HAPPY”, my sister and her husband have jobs, own a home, car and have two children because that makes them “HAPPY”. No two people on Earth are the same and is why I hate preaching that traveling the world is the best way to live life. In fact I rarely preach anything on my blog and when I do it is to make sure you strive to live a life that makes you happy because in the end we only get one chance at this precious game called life.
Happiness is something people have been striving for since the dawn of time… happiness is so important that the founding fathers of the United States of America even included it in the Declaration of Independence signed and adopted on July 4, 1776.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
The funny thing is it’s in that same document that they mention “all men are created equal” and yet here we are still fighting for human rights over 200 years later. The fact of the matter though is that people like this guy are all over the world and is why so many minorities are discriminated against. We need to educate these people and help them realize that GLBT humans are just like anyone else living on Earth we just want to be happy. The late Harvey Milk once said something that has stuck with me from the moment I heard it:
“Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends if indeed they are your friends. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once they realize that we are indeed their children, that we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and for all. And once you do, you will feel so much better”
That my friends is the truth as hard as it is we must show people everywhere just that. Fuck I have tears in my eyes… I hate it, I never thought I would have to fight for my rights. Most people think it’s a choice, but it’s not. I mean really why would anyone want to choose a life that stripes them of so many basic human rights? Ahh I could go on and on about this subject because I am very passionate about it, but think I’ve said enough. I know this is a long post and I rarely ever ask this, but I really hope you take a moment to share this. GLBT rights have come a long way, but we still have a much longer way to go for equal rights around the world and know it’s going to be a tough fight, but a fight worth having. As for the purpose of life even if you don’t agree with me or my thoughts I’d love to hear what you think about this and I hope anyone who reads this continues to strive for a happy life.